How YOU can create experiences that inspire a better world
We all are shaped by our experiences in our lives. And the memories, good and bad, have permanently altered our outlook towards our lives and future. Our experiences influence our thinking, perceptions, ideas, beliefs and judgement. And how we react to our experiences shapes our lives and destiny. We are nothing but a mind over matter that is a product of our experiences under specific circumstances in our lives. If our circumstances were any different our experiences would have been very different as well and would result in a different memory that will remain with us forever. Many experiences and the feelings around it often lie dormant in our minds for long and only surface when we encounter similar circumstance in our lives. I tend to draw some inspiration from the character Guido; Roberto Benigni played in the movie “Life is Beautiful” where in the second half of the movie he tries to create a totally different but a playful experience for his son by telling him that they are participants in a game to collect points while they were subjected to the horrific experiences within a Nazi camp. . In the end the son thinks he won the game when the war ends while his father got killed in the puses He convinces his son that they are in a game to explain features of the concentration camp that would otherwise be scary for a young child. He convinces his son that if he cries, complains that he wants his mother, or says that he is hungry, he will lose points, while quiet boys who hide from the camp guards earn extra points. And in this way he creates a playful and exciting experience in the mind of his child as opposed to a traumatic and horrid one. In the end when the Americans take over the camp, the child thinks he has won the game and gets to ride on a tank. The story is narrated by the grown up child recollecting his father’s sacrifice for his family. For me, it only confirmed that we can create a positive experience for others from a horrid reality if we wish. And by doing so, we create positive memories that builds positive personalities.
Experience is what causes a person to make new mistakes instead of old ones. ~Author Unknown
Understanding the importance of our experiences:
Our response to situations and events in our lives are all shaped by our experiences. Our thought process, our mind set, attitude, aspirations, expectations, and social behaviour are all altered or shaped by our experiences. Many of our experiences are usually personal in nature and there are several experiences that are conceived. The personal experiences are usually deeper in nature that we hold on to for long because we have endured personally as opposed to the ones that are conceived by other people’s personal experiences or opinions which changes over time and based on our individual personal experiences on that subject. If you spend some time thinking about your experiences that have affected you and your opinions about certain things in life, you will soon realize how fragile your opinions could be as it would have been lot different only if the circumstances of your experience were different.
Experience is not what happens to a man. It is what a man does with what happens to him. ~Aldous Leonard Huxley
How you react to an experience and your choice of response leaves an almost permanent code of response to similar future experiences in your memory. You are more likely to response very similarly the next time you encounter a similar experience. Thus what you chose to do with your experiences plays a major factor in your development, understanding, response, opinions and future behaviours. We all carry several fond memories of your childhood that we often try to recreate for our youngsters or children. We often try to physically recreate the same atmosphere and circumstances hoping our children have the same experiences in their lives. We ape our parents’ behaviours at times in an effort to invoke similar response from our children, we tell the same old stories we grew up with to our children, or create similar environments such as taking them to a beach, playing in an open back yard etc. The core idea being that we hope our children to grow up with the same fond memories we did from our childhood.
We should be careful to get out of an experience only the wisdom that is in it – and stop there; lest we be like the cat that sits down on a hot stove-lid. She will never sit down on a hot stove-lid again – and that is well; but also she will never sit down on a cold one anymore. ~Mark Twain
Realizing the power of creating positive experiences:
If we realize how important a personal experience is to us and how it has influenced our lives in several ways, it will dawn upon us the importance for us to create good experiences and circumstances for everyone who comes in contact with us in our lives. What we experience under specific circumstances shapes us and what circumstances and experiences we create influences every individual we come in contact in our lives. It is very similar to how we feel when we have met someone who makes us feel good or bad. We hold grudges and hatred towards those who leave us with bad experiences. Similarly we love those who have given us pleasant memories. And often we try to recreate these for those who we love.
Who then can so softly bind up the wound of another as he who has felt the same wound himself. ~Thomas Jefferson
We all are made of our experiences that we encountered in a specific circumstance. If an individual behave in a particular way, it is because his or her experience thought him these responses and resulting characteristics were born. We are like them too and they are like is. We all are victims of our life experiences. But we each can change ourselves and others by changing the scars in our memories by creating new and positive experiences and circumstances. We can influence opinions, understanding, memories, feelings, responses, love, hatred, prejudice, knowledge and lives by how we chose to behave and the experiences we create for ourselves and others. Thus by making every effort to create a positive interaction and experience every time you speak or contact others you create a better world of pleasant memories, experiences and happiness. Successful coaches, leaders, and motivators are all great experience makers. They motivate and inspire people with positive experiences and lessons. They tell and show other examples of positive experiences to inspire positive behaviour. The experience of doing great things in life, experiencing the rewards for good deeds, experiencing success are highly motivating factors for many of us. We draw courage, strength, wisdom, ideas and inspiration from those who create positive experiences.
To do something, however small, to make others happier and better, is the highest ambition, the most elevating hope, which can inspire a human being ~ John Lubbock
So, the next time you visit family over holidays, go over to a friend home, advice someone who looks up to you, interact with colleagues at work, meet your grand parents, siblings, nephews or nieces, make effort to create a positive experience for them and try to leave them with pleasant memories of you and your words and wisdom. For they often have a profound impact in their lives like your experiences have impacted you. You can begin at home with your siblings, wife and children and enjoy a life of pleasant experiences and memories. Your personal experiences are created by how others treat you. Likewise their experiences with you are based on how you treat them. It is a chain of continuous actions and reactions. But to change this link from a negative to a positive one needs to come from you. If you truly realize this power and become aware of this gift you posses, you will invariably become a better person yourself. You will begin to chose your words, question your thinking, watch your actions, and develop character; all of which will create many positive experiences for others and in return their reactions will create positive experiences for you.
You have the power and ability to inspire every person you meet with positive experiences. You have the power to help others with being such inspirational characters for them. Do not let this amazing gift you posses go wasted. Start at home, and let is spread like wild fire!