Reflecting Realities and Deflecting Truths



Excuse me for writing this piece as a verbal diarrhea before I suffer from constipation of ideas.  It is about the state of our existences in absolute and arrogant denial of our realities. And the more the truth pokes us the more resilient we become in facing it. We also have a justification for this behaviour; Reality is ugly and Truth hurts. Hence we live in a cosmetic world of self conjured false wisdom passing every moment planning our escape from the next one coming our way. And don’t we have a list of excuses for every single despicable act of ours? From religion, to parenting, to relationships to the dog two doors down, or the infamous “just because”…not forgetting the classics..”I don’t know why i didn’t that, what was I thinking?”..the list of excuses sprout faster than we can realize our blunders.

Did you ever wonder if the person in the puddle is real, and you’re just a reflection of him? ~Calvin and Hobbes

The realities of our life in today’s world are certainly ugly. We blame the rich but seldom put in the effort, intelligence or take the risk to earn our success, we never muster the courage to question the things that is wrong and chose to rather follow the rest who turn a blind eye..well if they do not think it is wrong, why should we?, we will openly express our disgust against racially demeaning comments, but we will secretly think it and seldom take the liberties to express it amongst close friends, we will hurt and be rude the very ones who love and cherish us, but we will go out of our way to please and impress those who really do not give a damn about us, we will possess the fanciest brands and luxurious things in life on credit without thinking to make a statement, but will think hard and question the true need of those who seek charity, we are too eager to offer unsolicited advice to others while we take offense to others doing the same to us.  We condemn yet live up to the stereotypes, find fault in others and refuse to accept the ones in us, we provoke others until they loose their patience and react and then we blame them for their behaviour,  in relationships it is all about what the other does for us rather than what we do for them, we thrive on self entitlement,  we suffocate our intelligence and righteousness with our ego and pride, never earn what we desire, never earn our respect, never earn love and never accept the fact that it is only us who can change the ugly realities of our personal lives.

An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation, nor does truth become error because nobody sees it. ~Mahatma Gandhi

All this is simple and easy to do. All we need to do is deflect the truth and the facts that sits right in front of our eyes prodding our lazy common sense and intelligence.  Blatant denial is the norm of the day. Facts are for reference and argumentative purposes only, seldom are they used to think things over and alter our wisdom accordingly. All so called prophets preached the same message of love, tolerance, peace, equality, faith and building ideal characters and serving humanity, but the ritualistic religions created in their name brought about quite the opposite in their followers. We appoint ourselves as subject matter experts on everything. We criticize the experts and over ride their educated opinions and wisdom with our uneducated and highly limited ones. We never bother to learn. We are probably the only species than knowingly harms ourselves.  We are fully aware that smoking would kill us but we will still spend our hard earned money to buy ourselves a pack and smoke it. We may read a lot but seldom learn, we talk the talk all the time, and we question everything that doesn’t concern us. Often, people hardly know the facts on the issues they stand or are fighting for. They hate Israel, they hate Arabs, they love Democracy, they make fun of the French, they fear their national security, and the rich are bad, the poor are good, our economy is bad, times are tough, and such opinions never end. But the majority of us do not have the faintest clue of the facts, the true reasons, knowledge of the history or the education on these subjects, yet we have an opinion and take a stance regardless of our opinions are based on facts or fictitious information. We consume it all with an insatiable appetite for mundane nonsense that provides numb entertainment that helps us carry the conversation for that moment. We are great followers. We want everything to be told to us. We are conditioned this way. We seek borrowed wisdom. We follow the wisdom of our parents, the priest, the scriptures, the social norms, the cultural rituals, the government regulations, the political opinions, and the work place rules and policies unquestioningly.

Listening to both sides of a story will convince you that there is more to a story than both sides. ~Frank Tyger

Unless we begin to exercise our own intelligence, our ability to learn, face the facts, accept the realities, and take the responsibility to reinvent our own lives on well educated and principled values we will continue to see ourselves as the victim of external happenings. The courage to change for the better and the need to succeed has to come from within.  We hold the key to our success but yet we often seem to break open the doors that lead to our own destruction. Despicable yet wonderful us!

Even when we know what is right, too often we fail to act. More often we grab greedily for the day, letting tomorrow bring what it will, putting off the unpleasant and unpopular. ~Bernard M. Baruch