How do you deal with your problems?


Problems! Who doesn’t have problems? The rich have several emotional and financial stress problems hence the frequent visits to rehabs and high level of divorce rates, the poor seem to perpetual problems of several kinds, politicians and presidents bask in the glory of power but only with multilevel problems, and even kids have several kinds of different problems.  So, it is best to accept this rather essential fact of life, that problems are going to be there at every stage in our lives and we have to overcome them.

When it comes to problems and how people behave, one can clearly identify three basic kinds of people and behaviour patterns:

1 – The Problem Makers – These are the typical people who create problems by lack of positive attitudes or progressive actions. They create problems for themselves or others due to sheer boredom, mischief, or absolute laziness. The unwillingness to take responsibility towards getting them out of a problematic situation is often the major cause for other problems in their lives. They are often their own worst enemy as they dig themselves deeper into problems. They create their own problematic situations due to their own mistakes or inaction to damaging events. For example: taking on more credit than they can pay back, or taking on a commitment that cannot keep.

2- The Problem Dwellers – These are the typical perpetual victims of circumstances.  It is never their fault but always someone or some event that causes the stress.  Many of such individuals often can be seen whining about almost every single thing that doesn’t go their way or invokes them to do something to overcome difficult situations. Every problem is seen and handled as a major task that has been forced upon them. They would cry about their problem, seek sympathy, blame others, get into arguments but seldom do anything more than that. Such individuals can often be seen at work places.

3- The Problems Solvers – These are the unique breed who see problems as a challenge. They approach problems head on with confidence and determination to solve it and move ahead. They do not shy away from trouble, but muster the courage and think of ways to overcome them.  They do not spend time on crying about the problems, whining, or worrying about it, but they rather use their time to think hard and discuss possible solutions with those who can help them solve problems. They take the responsiblity to solver own problems and seek help, seek for solutions, and at times take risks in an effort to develop unique solutions. Needless to say these are the kinds who have a higher rate of success in their lives.  These are the innovators, the trend setters, the leaders etc.

So, take a few moments of honest introspection and ask yourself which one of these three types are you?

My Story:

“Cubixrule” is a term I came up with for the process I use to solve many things that I consider a problem. It is rather an unconventional way to approach a problem where I learned to see them as an opportunity to find or develop a solution rather than worry about it endlessly and let it consume my life and health.

The term “Cubixrule” itself was inspired from Rubik’s Cube, which I was introduced to by my older brother when I was about 11 years old. It was the hottest things in the world then. Everyone was talking about the complexities of this puzzle and were racing to figure out a solution. After several weeks I had developed a solution on my own. Ever since I learned to solve it by myself by developing a few short series of algorithms, I began to apply the belief that if I could solve such a complex puzzle, I must be able to solve many other problems as well.

Many years later I picked on another Rubik’s Puzzle. This one was called Rubik’s clock. Along with this puzzle, my brother gave me a copy of a Time magazine in which there was a small article about this new puzzle and how the inventor himself wasn’t able to solve this puzzle but the computer says it has over a million possibilities. Unlike the cube this puzzle was a disc with nine clock faces on either side. The objective was to turn the four dials on the side of this puzzle and get all the nine clock hands to the 12’0 clock position on both sides.

Three and a half days later, I had solved the puzzle and had developed a 17 step solution to solve the puzzle in less than 30 seconds. Once again I applied the “Cubixrule”. By this time, I had formed a definition for this word in my mind. It was a few positive fact based statements to define the thought process to solve a given problem.

Cubixrule: Every problem has a solution. It is only a problem until a solution is developed by someone. Therefore, every problem is nothing more than an undeveloped solution. And the challenge to be the first one to develop the solution is an opportunity you have to lead the world to a new way to solve problems”

 “Focus 90% of your time on solutions and only 10% of your time on problems.” ~Anthony J. D’Angelo

It is true when they say that: “Only the ordinary people do the most extraordinary of things”. Every scientist, politician, visionary, inventor, discoverer, musician who gave our world many wonderful things and knowledge were once considered to be ordinary. Each and every one of them faced their hardships, critics, ridicule, depression, stress and obstacles and overcame them by their own respective versions of “Cubixrule”. They each did the extraordinary. The saw the undeveloped solution and set to develop one themselves and eventually proved their world wrong.

 “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” ~Albert Einstein

So, what is your problem?